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"I once heard a woman counsel a grumbling wife to think of her husband as a total stranger so that she would treat him better."
Showing love and courtesy to those closest to us
Andree Sue Peterson, World Magazine
Ours is a household of four: my husband, my father, my father-in-law, and me. People better at math will know the algorithm for the number of relationships this concatenation generates.
There is the one between me and my husband, the one between me and my father, and between me and my father-in-law. But then you must also draw lines connecting each person with each other, and consider their separate dynamics. And if you really want to be thorough, you must note the various combinations made when any three of us are here and the fourth member is away.
A household is often a collection of people who would not necessarily gravitate toward each other in the world if providence had not thrown them together. Like father and daughter, for instance. I once overheard one of my sons quip to a friend, “You don't get to choose your parents.” Ouch.
Of the four people in my house presently, only two are brought together by “gravitation,” and that would be my husband and myself. We live under this roof by choice and not perforce. My father was absorbed after my mother died, and David's father the following year. Still, this should be an easy gig: no one drinks, smokes, gambles, or has gluten allergies, and all are Christians.
But in the 1985 The Mystery of Marriage, Mike Mason observes correctly: “If people understood the true depth of self-abnegation that marriage demands, there would perhaps be far fewer weddings. For marriage … would be seen as a form of suicide. It would be seen not as a way of augmenting one's comfort and security in life, but rather as a way of losing one's life for the sake of Christ.”
Let it go on record that my husband does not like to regard marriage as a means of suicide but as an unalloyed joyful blessing. Nevertheless, even he has seen its dross-removal functions over the last four years. We both rejoice in that. But the pitfalls Mason cites should be heeded—and broadened to include every member of the household: “[Familial] love is even construed to be a sort of carte blanche approval for all kinds of selfishness and evil, a dispensation giving two people special license to sin against one another.”
Think about how horrible a state of affairs that is, precisely the opposite of what it should be. If there is anyone we should be courteous to, it is our family members, and if there is anywhere we should show love it is at home. C.S. Lewis, in The Four Loves , has harsh words for people who shine outdoors and slouch indoors—who behind closed doors are intolerable, suffocating, bad-mannered, and who expect that affection is due them simply by virtue of being family members. “We can say anything to each other,” this person thinks—and he does.If there is anyone we should be courteous to, it is our family members, and if there is anywhere we should show love it is at home.
I once heard a woman counsel a grumbling wife to think of her husband as a total stranger so that she would treat him better. It seemed like wisdom, under the circumstances. Later, the counseled woman was relating the incident to another person, and this person recoiled: “Treat your husband like a stranger? Sounds dreadful.” I wondered for years who had the better argument. I suppose if you are behaving despicably at home, the “total stranger” tact is a step up. But only because many of us are so far down.
Meditating on public vis-à-vis household conduct, Lewis writes: “There are ‘rules' of good manners. The more intimate the occasion, the less formalization; but not therefore the less need of courtesy. On the contrary, Affection at its best practices a courtesy which is incomparably more subtle, sensitive, and deep than the public kind. In public a ritual would do. At home you must have the reality which that ritual represented.”
That is to say, knowing my husband, father, and father-in-law intimately should make me more, not less , tuned in to how to please them and love them for their own good. The demand is higher, not lower.
It all can be done with Christ in us, and even looked forward to as the needed daily laying down of life that makes us like Him.
But who could ever do this in the flesh?
“[Pastor Jerome] Smith, who credits God for orchestrating the ingredients of the program, integrates spiritual principles with the process.”
A Wisconsin program alleviates poverty and unemployment without government dollars—and with the help of a U.S. senator
J.C. Derrick, World Magazine
Milwaukee native Christopher Lane avoided some of the common pitfalls of his inner-city upbringing, but fell into others. Although his parents were married for most of his childhood, their conflict and repeated separation deeply affected him. He largely avoided drugs but spent more than 20 years behind bars for armed robberies in 1989 and 1993.
In 2011, at age 40, Lane secured a job with the city of Milwaukee—the first time he'd ever been gainfully employed. But four years later, authorities arrested him for possessing a firearm as a felon. He spent nine months behind bars. “Everything I worked for all those years was gone,” Lane said.
As Lane tried to rebuild his life late last year, he found few employment prospects and nothing resembling a career. Then a friend told him about something called the Joseph Project. The program didn't have a fancy website, paid staff, or a building, but it had what he needed most: the chance to earn an interview—and redemption.
“That was the biggest blessing I ever received,” Lane, a muscular African-American with a deep voice, told me shortly before heading to work at Johnsonville Sausage one July evening.
The Joseph Project started last year through the combined efforts of a U.S. senator, his staff, and an inner-city church to match jobs with joblessness in eastern Wisconsin. The program is still in pilot phase, but the compelling early results illustrate a reproducible, privately funded approach to reducing unemployment and poverty.
“This is not a government program,” said Sen. Ron Johnson, R-Wis., who touted the program's faith-based, individualized approach: “We may not be able to save the entire world or the entire nation, but boy, you certainly can turn one person's life around.”
A study last year found Wisconsin's 2014 black unemployment rate to be the highest in the nation (almost 20 percent), but the real jobless rate is much higher, since unemployment figures do not include residents who have stopped looking for work. Many working-age African-Americans have felony convictions, no high-school diploma, or a suspended driver's license due to unpaid tickets—all contributors to rampant joblessness.
Drive about an hour north on Interstate 43 and you'll find the opposite problem: Sheboygan County has a 3.4 percent unemployment rate with 3,000 open positions across a range of companies. On average, every day three workers retire and only one student graduates high school, creating a growing gap between available jobs and available workers.
The Milwaukee and Sheboygan problems collided at Johnson's office last year. The Sheboygan County Economic Development Corporation (SCEDC) was seeking Johnson's help promoting manufacturing to high-school students. But Johnson staffer Orlando Owens, who had been meeting with inner-city pastors, explained the desperate need for jobs among Milwaukee residents.
“It became very clear that if you take their problem and our problem together, it really solves both of our dilemmas,” said Dane Checolinski, the SCEDC director. “From there it was just the logistics on how we were going to make it happen.”
Owens found a ready partner in Jerome Smith Sr., pastor of Greater Praise Church of God in Christ, a congregation that meets in a red, windowless building converted from a bar. (The church sits less than a mile from zip code 53206, where 62 percent of men have spent time behind bars—the highest incarceration rate in the nation.) Smith agreed to let the fledgling project use the church's 2003 Chevrolet Express van to transport workers.
While putting out a call for applicants among local churches, Smith, Owens, Scott Bolstad—another Johnson staffer—and others cobbled together a curriculum to teach soft skills such as job interviewing and punctuality to prospective employees. The first class featured 14 vetted applicants, who each received an interview with Kohler, the first participating company. All 14 received job offers. One failed his drug test, but the remaining 13 accepted offers and began work last October.
Johnson, who spent three decades in manufacturing before running for office in 2010, jumped in with both feet. He talked up the program to companies as he traveled the state, and he attended the launch of the second class at Greater Praise.
“The church was packed,” said Smith, calling the atmosphere that day magical: “God has used the Joseph Project to bring together blacks, whites, Hispanics, even Indians.”
Johnson has attended most class launches since then and sometimes addresses groups via conference call. Drawing on his business experience, he explains what employers are looking for in workers and also exerts some positive pressure.
“The reason we're in the 10th session is because the individuals that ran through sessions one through nine did succeed,” Johnson told program participants during a July conference call from his Capitol Hill office. “We can't make you want to succeed.?… This has got to be completely self-directed—not only for yourself, but for the people who will come behind you.”
Through 12 classes, 139 applicants have completed the weeklong workshop, and 79 landed jobs. Four more are awaiting their start date, and 30 are in the hiring process. Although 19 participants have quit, been fired, or changed jobs, 60 are still employed.
And many are thriving. “They're engaged, making good contributions, and their attendance is very good,” said Heather Martin of Johnsonville Sausage, which has so far hired eight Joseph Project applicants. Christopher Lane was the first, and he earned a promotion in his first four months on the job. Another Joseph Project hire saved Johnsonville thousands of dollars when he caught a broken piece of machinery on the production line.
The program has now expanded to include five participating companies (more are waiting to hire) and five vehicles that rack up more than 10,000 miles per month shuttling employees between Milwaukee and Sheboygan County. Two of those vehicles came courtesy of the SCEDC: In May the organization donated a pair of new minivans to the cause.
“We're dealing with people who have had real problems in their lives, but we're having enough success—and I think a pretty high rate of success—that we're definitely proving the concept,” Johnson told me. “It's pretty powerful.”
THE JOSEPH PROJECT got its name from Robert Woodson's 1997 book The Triumphs of Joseph , which argues inner-city renewal must come from within—free of government interference.
Many jobs programs exist, but the Joseph Project includes an unusual mixture of stakeholders: the job-seeking participants, the hiring companies, the church, the county development corporation, and the senator and his office. Five of Johnson's staffers spend time each month administering the program as a constituent service.
Those stakeholders pointed to three keys for the program's success: (1) The program is faith-based; (2) participants must commit to succeed; and (3) stakeholders are reliant upon each other. “We all succeed together or we fail together,” Johnson said.
Smith, who credits God for orchestrating the ingredients of the program, integrates spiritual principles with the process. He starts each class with prayer, requires group prayer before vans depart from the church, and only allows gospel music to play during the drive. All participants must attend a church twice per week.
New participants can't miss any of the Monday through Thursday classes. They're allowed to be late only once, and “you gotta have a good excuse,” said Smith, who professed Christ after a failed suicide attempt in 1997. Smith even administers random drug tests: “We want people to know we mean business.”
The discipline is good practice: Morning shuttles leave the church at exactly 5:30 a.m., and dependability is crucial in the early, probationary months of employment. Smith tells participants they have to fight against perceptions that people from Milwaukee don't want to work: “You prove that right when you don't show up for the van on time.”
The payoff for participants is worth it. Most wages range from $12.80 to $18.50 per hour, but they reach as high as $26.50. “That's some money!” laughs Smith. He points to the biblical story of Joseph saving 20 percent of plentiful harvests for Pharaoh and instructs participants to save 20 percent of their income, tithe 10 percent, and live on the remaining 70 percent. Some have money in the bank for the first time, and one man in his 60s purchased the first new car he's ever owned.
The project's biggest challenge? Perhaps financial sustainability. It runs entirely off of private donations, and organizers want to keep it that way, since they consider the faith component crucial to its success. Smith said his church is tighter financially than it was a year ago, but Johnson's encouragement keeps him going: “He said if you don't give up on this program, neither will I.”
For Christopher Lane, recently becoming a regular van driver—so the church can hire one less—is one of the ways he's giving back. He takes pride in encouraging other participants to succeed as he has and says he loves going to work every day.
“I've never seen a program like this,” Lane said. “It's more than just a job.?… This is like a movement.”
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